Valentine’s Day Pleasures You’ll Enjoy Far Past the Actual Holiday!

Valentine’s Day is a time where people get together to really spend time with that special someone in their lives. Boyfriends want to show girlfriends that they care, and girlfriends pretty much want to show the same in return. And of course, it’s not like same-sex couples are left out of the Valentine’s Day fun either. Everyone is pretty much going to be enjoying the holiday doing things that humans generally like to do — like sex!

So, male or female, chances are good that you’re into having a red hot Valentine’s Day, and we can’t say that we blame you at all. If you’re really thinking about setting off fireworks a little early this year, then you really need to try to plan now to have a great Valentine’s Day.

First and foremost, does it really have to be about flowers, chocolate, and romantic dinners? Not really — if that’s not what you and your sweetie are into. Some couples find that they’re really not into all of the flowers and chocolates and over the top symbols of romantic love. You might want to go for a whole day of rock climbing, ice fishing, or even a lovely round or two of laps around an indoor pool. Whatever you want to do, make sure that you do it as a group effort. You want to make sure that both parties are going to be represented well for Valentine’s Day.

This is important both within the bedroom as well as outside the bedroom. If you’re only thinking about getting in bed and doing what you want to do, you’re going to make the other person upset. If you instead think about what’s going to excite them, you’ll probably end up getting pretty pleased, if you catch our drift.

So, what can we really do to make Valentine’s Day special? Good sex that isn’t too heavily planned. Far too often couples look at Valentine’s Day as a day of “have to”s — they have to do the big dinner, they have to get dressed up, they have to they have to they have to… you get the idea. Instead of telling yourself about all of the things that you have to do, you want to focus on all of the things that you want to do for yourself as well as your partner. That’s going to unlock the real way to make everything else come together. There’s no reason or point to try to get to a zone where you are completely self-sacrificing, but you shouldn’t get too selfish either. This is a team effort, and it definitely shows.

But the mistake that so many couples make is that they do things out of obligation. No one really wants to be treated with extreme kindness and given pleasure out of a sense of obligation. If you don’t normally do a lot of flowers and chocolate and then go out of your way to do something for them on the holiday of love, you will end up sending the message that you feel like you have to do these things in order to get access to the other person in bed. That’s definitely not the message we want to send!

The foundations of a great Valentine’s Day can be found in a spontaneous, anything goes, mentality. In other words, you don’t want to sweat everything else going on around you. Don’t get sucked into marketing campaigns on television or even online, because they are definitely designed to get money from you and that’s about it. Now that’s one way to get screwed, but it’s not the one you were hoping for!

Sex needs to include a lot of emphasis on togetherness, connection, happiness, and bonding. You want to feel connected to your partner, and you want them to feel like they truly want you from the inside out. The best sex isn’t often between super hot people the way society assumes it is — it’s through average people that really just wanted to have a good connection between each other.

If you want to make the night special, start with foreplay. Foreplay can be defined simply as all of the little things that you do before sex, but it goes beyond that. You want to think of it as a main dish unto its own category. Don’t rush foreplay — it really does make a difference in terms of getting someone into the mood!

Have you been thinking about trying out new toys in bed? This might be a good time for it if you have a really adventurous partner. However, if you sense that they’re already nervous as it is you might want to hold back and see about doing that another time. Valentine’s Day sex should be a good blend of the familiar as well as the new. Yet you have to make sure that you’re respecting the boundaries of your partner at all times. IF they’re not comfortable with something, it’ll just end up taking the fun out of the moment — and who really wants to do that?

Now is the perfect time to start thinking about how to make your Valentine’s Day special. As mentioned before, you don’t want to just do what’s already been done — go out of your way to make it special for the two of you, on your terms!